In the last few months, I have been dealing with my mother’s health decline to her death at the end of August 2019. Our family has been preparing our selves for the loos of mom for the last two years. You are never truly ready to face the loss of a person that is larger than life and been a huge part of your whole life. In this blog, I will touch on what the steps of loss and grief are and how I have been handling them plus how massage can help you travel those steps a little easier.
We are all familiar with the steps of loss/grief but we all tend to ignore them when it comes to our own situation. The five steps are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. We can travel back and forth between theses steps many times before we reach acceptance. For those of us that like to try to say we are just fine are probably not fine. I myself have been traveling these steps since I made the decision to return to Texas to help with the care of my mother. As the holiday season approaches, I find it very depressing to think about preparing or celebrating the holidays. My mother adored the holidays from decoration, food to gifts she went overboard. I am aware that the holiday season is my time to come to a complete acceptance that my mom is gone but her very special memories remain in my heart and mind forever.
As a massage therapist, I get the wonderful job of helping clients along on their journey to loss/grief through a relaxing massage or a listening ear. The steps of grief can cause havoc on the body from loss of sleep and appetite, high levels of stress and a body soreness that is unexplained. Choosing to get a weekly to monthly massage or body treatment after the loss/grief in your life can help you navigate the step by helping increase sleep and appetite, reduce the feeling of stress and soreness.
We all face things differently but your massage therapist can help relieve some of the symptoms to make it easier to travel the road to acceptance no matter if it takes you hours, months or years to reach it. I have lived by this since facing many loss/grief times in my life. Life is short, we can’t change the past, we have no idea for sure what the future will be, so live each day, hour and second like it could be your last with no regrets.